As I reflect on the past 25 years of marriage, my heart is filled with a myriad of emotions. It has been a journey marked by love, loss, and the unwavering grace of God. Our story is not one of fairy tales and happily-ever-afters. It's a story of resilience forged through the fires of adversity. We've faced challenges that tested the very core of our being, and yet, here we are, standing stronger together than when we first fell in love. Infertility was the first hurdle we encountered on … [Read more...]
On the eve of my 2nd Cancerversary 2020
Every year, as Chinese New Year approaches, I will be reminded that it was the week before CNY of 2018 that I was diagnosed with cancer. This year, it was no different. ‘What a silly thing’, you say, to dwell on it. ‘It’s already over, don’t think about it!’ Others would advise. I don’t really wait for the day to come or anticipate it, but a little mild depression follows me around on the anniversary I have been diagnosed with endometrial cancer. I try to suppress that … [Read more...]
Hello 2019 – 10 Lessons from a ‘Shitty’ 2018
Pardon the French, but 2018 had been just that kind of a year for the hubby as well. While I was going through my own health issues, the husband has been having his own too. Sometimes the 'pillar' of our lives who support us silently from the sides, have their own struggles which they may not be so ready to share...until being asked. So this is for all the husbands out there...from mine: HELL of a Year “There’s 40% chance it could be prostate cancer.” my urologist muttered … [Read more...]
When your wife is diagnosed with Cancer…
Foreword: Though this post is written from a Christian husband’s perspective, it is my hope to encourage husbands and fathers to be more open in sharing, regardless of faith or religion, so we can better support our spouses in whatever difficult circumstances we may find ourselves thrown in. “Husbands, love your wife…” Ephesians 5:25 (NIV) Revelation “I’m sorry…I think I’m going too fast.” He paused and shifted his glance downwards. The doctor’s pause broke my long uninterrupted stare as he … [Read more...]
When Cancer becomes your diagnosis…
How do you compose yourself to break the news to your child that you have Cancer? Well today, that's what I did. Three words - "I have Cancer" but it will be the most difficult three words I had to utter so far in my existence. I have been diagnosed with Endometrial Cancer today. We do not know which stage it is yet as docs would need to do cancer staging plus perform the op to remove my uterus, my fallopian tubes, my ovaries and my lymph nodes and send them for further pathology tests … [Read more...]