{"id":23735,"date":"2015-09-13T21:17:39","date_gmt":"2015-09-13T13:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifestinymiracles.com\/?p=23735"},"modified":"2015-10-28T08:36:03","modified_gmt":"2015-10-28T00:36:03","slug":"say-you-say-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifestinymiracles.com\/2015\/09\/say-you-say-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Say you, Say me: Bringing out the worst\u2026from the best in parents"},"content":{"rendered":"
It’s not just sleepless nights that cause parents to argue – divided opinion on parenting can also cause us to snap at our spouses. One of the toughest challenges as a married couple is when we do not see eye to eye on issues pertaining to number one, finances and number two, raising our children. Sometimes, you can clearly state your rationale but your spouse (note the lack of endearing term here) disagree because he\/she thinks her viewpoints ought to be validated too. <\/p>\n
In fact, it doesn\u2019t get easier when our children grow older. Most of the time, the disagreements arise because both parents have the best interest of the children at heart. No right. No wrong. Everything is gray? Surely not!<\/p>\n
From screen time to bedtime and to waking up time. Too much play? Not enough play? Too much sun or not enough sun? The list goes on! We argue over so many things, that ironically, we are both none the wiser. The reasons for these disagreements could be due to our different upbringing, or because men and women value certain things more highly than others. For example, Moms would usually freak out if their toddlers pick up a creepy crawly at the park but Dads would probably dismiss it as not a big deal, in fact, it stimulates their curiosity. I must admit I tend to sweat over the small stuff and my husband always has to remind me to ‘relax’, ‘let go a little’, ‘be less uptight’ to help me put things in perspective.<\/p>\n
Nobody said parenting was easy. But talking about the things we disagree on, and trying to reach some kind of workable, peace-keeping compromise, will make things a lot easier. One of the common tiffs which crops up once in a while, rearing its ugly head in our home is the issue of discipline.<\/p>\n To put things into context: The common discipline topic for parents is whether or not to spank our children (be it using bare hands, the ruler or the cane). Being educators, we have seen many examples of students who have gone astray because of ‘permissive parenting’ so my husband and I are on the same page when it comes to ‘sparing the rod and spoiling the child’ (or at least we think we are, till the disagreements and squabbles emerge).<\/p>\n
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