{"id":192,"date":"2014-04-24T23:06:00","date_gmt":"2014-04-24T15:06:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifestinymiracles.com\/2014\/04\/24\/positive-discipline-is-it-possible-to-discipline-with-love\/"},"modified":"2014-10-03T18:18:48","modified_gmt":"2014-10-03T10:18:48","slug":"positive-discipline-is-it-possible-to-discipline-with-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifestinymiracles.com\/2014\/04\/positive-discipline-is-it-possible-to-discipline-with-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Positive Discipline: Is it possible to Discipline with Love?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Several episodes in recent months have raised the alert that our discipline methods might be ineffective. Late last year, a Sunday School teacher remarked that she’s ‘easily distracted, likes to do her own things’ and urged us to spend time interceding for her. Early this year, I received a call from her form teacher informing me that Dana was ‘displeased’ that she wasn’t picked the ‘STAR’ (model pupil) of the month. We were also told that Dana tends to be ‘overly zealous’ to share her knowledge and as a result, it ‘deprives other students a chance to participate’. Last Sunday, in Church (again), she was chastised by another teacher for shoving a boy even though he had apparently pushed her first. <\/p>\n
We have always taught Dana to respect authority, be it at home, at play, in school or church. She is brought up to be well-mannered, cooperative, attentive and helpful. Note we did not say she must be smart or intelligent. To us, the heart is more important than the head. Hearing such negative comments disheartens me. We are grateful for these feedback and we always act promptly on them. We spanked, instilled time out, removed privileges, used rewards, counselled and prayed, hugged and reconciled, each time with her promising us and God that she will change and behave better. <\/p>\n
Today, I took some time off to pick Dana up from her enrichment class and I casually asked the teacher how was she. I could tell the teacher was hesitant as she searched for a constructive and politically correct reply. She muttered feebly, ‘she likes to walk around during lessons (i.e. disruptive)….’ then hurriedly turned and walked away, abruptly ending our conversation. The words hit me like a brick. <\/p>\n
Even though I was very disappointed with her, I turned to timely reminders in this article from Huffpost Parents<\/a> to restrain myself from disciplining out of anger. <\/span><\/p>\n