As I reflect on the past 25 years of marriage, my heart is filled with a myriad of emotions. It has been a journey marked by love, loss, and the unwavering grace of God. Our story is not one of fairy tales and happily-ever-afters. It's a story of resilience forged through the fires of adversity. We've faced challenges that tested the very core of our being, and yet, here we are, standing stronger together than when we first fell in love. Infertility was the first hurdle we encountered on … [Read more...]
Offering Help and Support When A Child Dies…
Dedicated to our friends who came and helped. You know who you were. “No parent should have to bury a child ... No mother should have to bury a son. Mothers are not meant to bury sons. It is not in the natural order of things…” - Stephen Adly Guirgis, The Last Days of Judas Iscariot ‘Need your help…David’ The text came quite abruptly in the night. My colleague had just received news that a close friend's baby had died, and she was feeling clueless how to render support. Like … [Read more...]
Supporting Bereaved Parents in Singapore
The morning air was still. I switched on my mobile to get updates of a baby girl whom we've been praying for the day before. Her Mommy is a mutual friend who had appealed to us to "PRAY! Z is not breathing, did CPR, managed to get light breathing back and are awaiting ambulance to arrive...". It broke my heart to learn that Baby Z passed on at 8:30pm last night, 21 July 2015. Baby Z was only two months old... The death of a child can happen in the best of families and to the most capable, … [Read more...]
Once My Child, Always My Child…In Memory of Nathaniel’s 10th Anniversary
October is the "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month" in the United States. I wonder why here in this part of the world, we don't have ever commemorate or even set aside days like that...too pragmatic perhaps with no room (and time) for sentimentality. Here, pregnancy and infant loss is very much a taboo affair. People will offer some sympathy when it happens ("Oh you poor thing") but then very quickly expect you to 'snap out of it' and return to normal programming the next day. Friday … [Read more...]
Because they were not a dream…
Today, April 22nd, marks the death anniversary of our second son, Joash Sim, who was born straight into Heaven 7 years ago...This is the first time I am honouring him (and his siblings) on this blog...I reckon if I want to keep it real, I have to share this because this IS a big part of my motherhood journey... Background: We had fertility issues, the husband is fine but I had PCOs (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). In the 5th year of our marriage, with the help of assisted fertility and IVF, … [Read more...]